So You Wanna Come Out??

         Coming out is one of the hardest things you can ever do. I remember when I was 16 and I told my mother. It didn't go so well. I remeber texing her and telling her I didn't like boys. She said: "Are you sure?". Then later when she came home, I stayed out of her way. But she stayed in her room until the following night. That is when she called me in her room and said, "so what is the problem?". Before I answered, I seen all the tissue that surrounded her bed, so, I knew I had upset her. I began to tell her how, I didn't find guys attractive. She began to cry and cry, then said: "you could've least told me you wer bisexual, but gay (as she shook her head). Its not right!!..Even the bible said it's not right!!". Then the words I was dreading came out her mouth, " i'm not accepting it". I knew from that point on our relationship would never be that same, because me being a lesbian was a big part of my life. My mom and I relationship has always been close, but that would be the one thing I wouldnt be able to talk to her about. I told myself I won't bring it up again until I was financially stable, with my own place.


Now my dad, was easy. I told him over the phone and he said he would never judge me. And that year he even took me to Gay Pride in NY.


It can be hard and nerve wrecking but I wanna share some tips with you guys that might help you come out the closet to a loved one:


1) Take them out to dinner ( they won't act too crazy in public).


2) Make it intimate. Don't text or call over the phone.


3) Get ready to be asked some questions.


4) Get ready to be yelled at and even cursed out.


5) Bring a friend with you for support.


6) Get ready to talk very personal, even about sex.


7) Give them a book/ pamphlet or a website they can go to. They may want to understand more.


8) They might become distant for a couple of days and even weeks.


9) Worst case scenario, they kick you out, make sure you have some where to stay for the night or even a couple of nights.


10) Worst case scenario, if you have older parents or were raised by your grandparents. They may have a heart attack or they might pass out. It is possible.


Just understand this news is life changing and everyone wont take it nicely.


Here is a website of some openly gay celebrities.